Afghanistan has been at war for many decades and even centuries. The current war against the United States and its allies has already lasted longer than the U.S. war in Vietnam. When will this country cease to exist as a war sponge and start on the path towards “civilized” living? I dare say we are possibly a century away from achieving such a state within this land locked country.
Yes, the Afghans have recently experienced so-called democracy through the practice of voting and choosing their government, but many believe that all of their elections have been marred by fraud, indifference and lack of sufficient voter turn-out to truly be representative of what the Afghan people want.
In fact, how do we really know that voting for a leader is what the Afghans desire? Although the system has worked well for the United States and many other modern countries, perhaps it is a model that cannot be justly embraced by this culture. Perhaps the level of poverty, illiteracy, vengefulness and radical religious beliefs are what prevents the U.S. from formulating the democratic values that we hold so dear into the Afghan social conscience.
If one looks at their culture in detail, one can see that their everyday lives focus on primitive survival and adherence to the religious rituals that are so engrained into their lives. Even the “normal” upbringing of puberty that is experienced in the U.S. and around the world are stifled in Afghanistan. Growing up, the odds are insurmountable that an Afghan boy will be sexually molested by another man. This is not seen as vile and an aborition, rather it is an accepted practice that bears no spiritual penalty in the twisted form of Islam that is pervasive throughout this land. They even have a term for this practice, bacha bazi. In my observations and discussions with numerous Afghans, I have come to believe that the repressive practice of hiding a woman behind Burkas and heavy clothing in the name of Islam, only perpetuates the desire to alleviate their sexuality between men and boys. If one cannot look at a woman or desire her physically for fear of guilt, persecution and the promise of hell, then one must look elsewhere for relief of their biological, sexual development. In come the young, innocent boys. There is no penalty in this culture for a man molesting a young boy, in fact, it is encouraged lest you fall for the gratification of a woman which then brings in tremendous cultural and spiritual ramifications. Having a young boy is, in some portions of Afghanistan, a status symbol; something to be shown off. I work with some interpreters here as we mentor and train the Afghan Army. As I speak with some of them, I clearly see the hesitation in their eyes to open up about this aspect of their society that is clearly taboo in other, more developed countries. When one of them does find the inner courage to speak, I sense the shame and embarrassment as they relate stories that they are aware of when a boy has been taken as another man’s possession. At times I believe that maybe this tragedy has involved them personally, but I do not press further in order to protect their dignity. As I spoke with one of them, I saw his eyes swell with tears, almost as if his soul were crying out for love, forgiveness and acquital of his past. It was heart wrentching listening to him yet wondering if he himself needed absolving and cleansing from the past sins of others.
Either way, as I walk among the Afghan soldiers, I will occasionally see men holding hands. This was rather puzzling and disturbing in that I have ever before seen this among military men. When I inquired to my interpreters about this, I was assured that it has nothing to do with them being homosexual but rather it serves as an expression of friendship. I would tend to believe that except that the physical contact almost seems seductive and arousing to those involved. Again, I wondered if their repressive tendencies towards looking at, touching or seeing woman casues them to turn to that which is not forbidden; another man.
My heart goes out to the Afghan people; certainly decades of war and tribal strife is not what many of these people wish for their country. The vicious cycle of killing, retribution and harsh punishments such as the cutting off of hands or feet must certainly create a hardened heart and lack of hope. If anyone is caught helping the U.S. or Nato, they will certainly meet their own demise. Those responsible will then be hunted down by coalition forces, killed, maimed or captured and then the cycle starts all over again. In the next few days I will be interviewing an interpreter whose father worked with the Afghanistan National Police (ANP) and was brutally murdered by the Taliban just a few short weeks ago. His story will both shock you and instill a sense of sadness at the atrocities that are committed as a result of The Audacity of War.




